-William Arthur Ward
Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hate.
It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness." Bob Proctor
Let's Look At “Money.” What Is It? 1. Money is a reward you receive for the service you render. The more valuable the service, the greater your monetary reward. Thinking of ways you can be of greater service will not only help you earn more money, it will also enable you to grow intellectually and spiritually. 2. Money is just an idea. The paper you fold and place in your purse or pocket is not money. It is paper with ink on it. It represents money, but it is not money. Money is an idea. The earning of money has nothing to do with the paper stuff. It has to do with consciousness. It has to do with spirit. I am aware there are books that instruct you on how to manipulate the market, stocks and people ... they might even help you get money. But, let me caution you ... where there is no spiritual consciousness as to how money works ... there is no spiritual strength ... there is no lasting happiness ... and, as a result, there is no real wealth. 3. To accumulate wealth, a person must become very comfortable with the idea of money. That may sound strange, however most people are not comfortable with the idea of money, which is why they do not have any. The cause of poverty is poverty consciousness. A poverty consciousness will cause a person to see, hear, smell, think, and feel lack and limitation. The late Mike Todd said, "Being broke is a temporary situation. Being poor is a mental state." He was correct. There are wealthy people who lose every cent they have through a series of mistakes in judgment ... but that does not make them poor. They will have it all back in a short time because of their prosperity consciousness. Here's How to Earn More Money If you have any question in your mind regarding your level of consciousness with respect to money, be very honest with yourself and look at your results. Study the patterns in your life.
If you want to improve your financial position in life, focus your attention on creating a higher level of prosperity consciousness. Begin by preparing a powerful, positive affirmation and fuel it with emotion. When you do this, you are depositing this creative energy in the treasury of your subconscious mind. And, by repeating this process over and over and over again every day, it will begin to alter your mental conditioning and mentally move you in the direction you want to go. Write it out, read it, feel it, and let it take hold of your mind. How much money do you want? Saying “I want more money” is not good enough. Five dollars is more! How much more do you really want? Decide on a figure. Be specific. You will not seriously want more money than you are capable of earning ... however, you would be wise to remember ... you must earn it. Now, Understand the Three Ways to Earn Money There are just three key strategies for earning money. They are as follows: 1. Trading time for money. By far the worst of the three income earning strategies, it is employed by approximately 96 percent of our population — doctors, lawyers, accountants, laborers, etc. This is the method by which you must continue to put in more of your time in order to make more money. When you are not working ... you are not earning. What opportunities do you have to multiply your income? What can you do in your area of expertise that will create another stream of income for you? What can you teach ... what do you spend your free time doing that could actually become a source of income for you as you bring others into that very same hobby or activity? What do you provide in your day-to-day service that might prove an excellent joint venture for some body else out there? Find them and approach them with your great income-leveraging idea!
Multiplying your income through the use of leverage is a strategy that wealthy people have employed since the time of the ancient Babylonians. Unfortunately, this strategy is only used by approximately one percent of our population, yet that one percent earns approximately 96 percent of all the money that is earned! See how easily YOU can become part of that one percent? Now you know how! Here's how I would suggest you start determining your multiple streams of income: First, determine exactly how much money you want to earn. Write it down on a sheet of paper in large figures. Look at the number and tell yourself over and over again: “This amount of money is an EFFECT. It represents a reward that I want to receive. What service can I render that would be deserving of that reward? Then, take the total figure and divide it into multiple parts. Each part would represent a source of income. Each source of income represents a separate reward that you will receive for a service you would render. Work on one source of income at a time. Each one should become an exciting part of your life. You see, what you are actually doing is thinking of different ways you can be of service to others. Remember — money IS the ultimate servant. As you help others, you earn more. And, as you earn more, the more you can help others. Now that's prosperity consciousness! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For 40 years, Bob Proctor has dedicated himself to helping people create lush lives of prosperity, rewarding relationships, and spiritual awareness. To learn more about Bob Proctor and request seven free lessons Bob Proctor and Jack Canfield, visit http://TheSecretTrainingSeminar.com
360 Degrees
1. Understand your relationship with money:
Why do you want to make more money? What do you do with the amount you have today? Do you squander it, or do you know how to make it work for you? Does even talking about money make you feel nervous?
What is money to you? If money is a way of achieving self-definition or status, of feeling powerful, or secure, then you may want to ask yourself some deeper questions, like: If money didn’t exist, who would you be?
Money is an important tool to accomplish many things in our world, but it is a means, and not an end unto itself. Winning the lottery will not solve all of your problems.
Learn how to take care of the money you do have, now. And your money will take care of you later.
CHALLENGE: Give consciousness to the flow of money in your life. Write down every cent you spend and make over a period of one month. At the end of the month, compile your expenses into categories to review your spending habits. Keep this up for as many months as it is helpful to you.
2. Get to know your soul:
How can you know you are selling your soul unless you know what it is? What do you really want out of life? What makes you happy? If you didn’t have to work for money, what would you do with your life? Do you have a goal that doesn’t have to do with your career or your bank account? Knowing what you want, and understanding your internal sense of morality (not the one that has been imposed upon you from without), is the only way to know if you are headed in the right direction in life.
CHALLENGE: Start keeping a journal, and ask yourself what will really make you happy in life. Define or re-state goals for yourself that are in-line with your true happiness, not just what you think is practical. Do not limit yourself. Of course, one of your goals can be to make more money, but ask yourself how. Be specific. And make sure that this method is in accordance with your inner morality.
Make sure to write down the method you are choosing to make more money in your journal. It could be to get a promotion, to get a degree, change professions, write a book or start a business, just make sure to write down your “money-making plan”. Several times per week, evaluate the activities of your day compared to your goals, including your “money-making plan”. Are you bringing yourself closer to them, or further away each day?
3. Replenish your energy every day:
Having ample energy is essential. It makes the difference between being the champion of your day, or being dragged along by it. Begin each day with activities designed to “charge your batteries.” Whatever your goals are, you will have an easier time accomplishing your daily tasks when you feel energized and alive. - Breathing: Breathing consciously is one of the most effective ways to decrease stress, increase your energy level, and your level of awareness. Taking complete breaths, deep into the lower abdomen, is a simple, yet effective, way of filling your body with energy when you feel run-down.
Physical Exercise: Just 15 minutes of some type of exercise in the morning prepares you have a winning attitude every day. After a quick jog or walk, you won’t need the morning coffee to wake up, and the natural endorphins that are produced by exercise will help you to enjoy a positive and peaceful attitude all day.
CHALLENGE: Wake up 30 minutes earlier, and do 10 minutes of “Power Breathing” (from Hypsoconsciousness, by John Baines) and 15 minutes of physical exercise every morning.
4. Remain positive:
Remaining positive is necessary to achieving anything in life. A positive attitude has been proven to affect everything from making money to maintaining health. It is discussed in nearly every book on “success.” But what is not discussed, is how to become positive.
Positivity is a state of being, much like happiness. You cannot fake it. You can make others believe you are positive by faking, just as you can make others believe you are happy, but you’ll still be faking it. First of all, it is essential to be full of energy to be positive. Negative thoughts and emotions are associated with a low level of energy, so make sure you follow the suggestions in Sure-Fire Step #3. One morning when you are feeling a little low, go outside for a quick jog or a walk. Notice how you begin to feel better and more positive afterwards. Learn to recognize negative thoughts and to cast them away. Avoid getting into discussions with negative people. Notice the people with whom who you choose to surround yourself. Are they people who welcome new challenges, or do they usually complain about them?
CHALLENGE: Notice the negative thoughts and emotions that invade your day. Jot down a quick note in a small notebook whenever you perceive a negative thought or emotion. Try to catch the exact word or phrase that you hear in your head. Notice how repetitive they are. Where do you think these thoughts and emotions come from? Do they sound like anyone else you know? Write down your discoveries in your journal (from Sure-Fire Step #2).
5. Stay in the present moment:
Life circumstances cannot drag you along when you are truly present. Many people go through their days on “auto-pilot,” bored with the day-to-day repetition of tasks in their lives, waiting for the next weekend, the next party, the next vacation, the next date… anything to “get-away” from the combination of stress and tedium that has overwhelmed them.
By taking ourselves off of auto-pilot, and deciding to be present in our lives, everything becomes much more interesting, as we notice subtle differences in things that we were too asleep to notice before. We also re-take responsibility for all of our actions. Nothing “just happens” to us anymore. We can make choices.
When you are at a high level of awareness, the decisions you make will naturally be in accordance with your true wishes, your goals, and your morals. You will be less susceptible to external pressures, which can make you feel as if you are forced by various circumstances to make compromising decisions. When one door is closed, another one is always open. But you won’t be able to see it unless you are present and aware.
CHALLENGE: Take five minutes and sit upright in a chair, completely immobile. Notice any thoughts or distractions that appear in your mind, and then let them go. For more about this powerful exercise, reference The Stellar Man, by John Baines.
6. Maintain your effort and integrity:
Many times we start off our projects full of zeal and enthusiasm, only to feel bored and unmotivated by those same projects later. Hard work, follow-through, and consistency are necessary for the success of any project, including the project of making more money.
Of course, if working harder were the answer, most of us would already have what we want. We must also learn to work smarter in order to accomplish our goals. It is important to remain ordered and systematic in our approach. If we are disorganized in any way, we should expect it to negatively affect our results. Also, our thoughts, words and deeds should remain in sync with our goals. It is extremely important to keep your word at all costs. The word is creative, and one who consistently keeps one’s word can achieve anything. Ask yourself these questions in relation to your “money-making plan”: - Are you making your best effort?
- Is the effort consistent, or scattered and flagging?
- Are you organized in your approach? Is your environment organized?
- Are you able to keep your word?
CHALLENGE: Record your discoveries from the questions above in your journal. What could you do to improve on your effort? Are you sure you really want to do what it takes to make more money, or were you simply enjoying the dream of having more money?
7. Follow the money:
The saying “birds of a feather, flock together” comes from an ancient truth, which states that “like attracts like.” So, as abundance is a state of being, you should make every effort to be abundance, in order to attract more abundance. Everything you do should come from a spirit of abundance, rather than a spirit of scarcity. Remember, abundance does not only manifest itself in the form of money. It comes in the form of joy, love, appreciation, etc. There are many ways to give and receive. Analyze all your actions using this measuring stick. Specifically: - How do you present yourself?
- How do you dress?
- Do you usually feel joyful, or melancholy?
- Do you appreciate the things you have today, and what you are given?
- Are you generous with others (materially, emotionally, with your time)?
- Are you generous with yourself?
- Do you choose to spend time with positive, abundant people or negative people?
This last point is an important one. Association with other positive, abundant people (and those seeking abundance) is important. Find a mentor, who shares your vision, passion, and morality. This person can provide a wealth of knowledge on creating and maintaining the abundance you desire. Of course, never associate with people just to use or take from them. You reap what you sow in this world. Rather, introduce yourself out of a spirit of abundance. You have a lot to offer, as well. Think about your answers to the questions above.
CHALLENGE: Answer the questions above in your journal. How can you make yourself more abundant in every way?
CHALLENGE #2: Make a list of abundant people you would like to have as friends and mentors. Approach at least one, focusing more on what you have to offer than what you have to gain.
CHALLENGE #3: Picture yourself often, as you will be when you accomplish your goals. See how you will look. Feel how you will feel. Call your future to you in your mind.
If you are serious about changing your life and creating success in every aspect of it, I suggest picking up a copy of 360° Success. In that one book, you will find many keys to making incredible improvements in your life.
Article submitted by Gail Levine, founder of, Millionaire Minds In Training (MMITinACTion)
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Dr. Margaret, The Rejection Syndrome
Life is made easier if one understands the nature of the Soul Structure and can see how it is effectively working. It is for this reason that I chose to share my understandings and discoveries with you in the hope that you will search out your own Soul structure and awaken to your real “Goal” in life and live life to the fullest. I have chosen to write this book using story illustrations to make it easier to see how the Soul Structure works. These stories are fictional, but each story has truth within it, which I hope will help you to see the truth within your own life. All the stories clearly show how “The Rejection Syndrome” is ever-present and how it takes constant vigilance to see it operating in an act of separation and/or isolation, no matter how wonderful the situation. There is a bit of all of us in all the stories and as Jesus, the greatest teacher, showed us, we are all children at heart and love to learn from stories.
When an individual decides to incarnate upon the earth, great emphasis is placed upon the preparation for that life. The Spirit selects a time and environment as well as its gender, parents and other persons who will interact with him/her once he/she is born. It is at this point that a Soul Structure is chosen. The other incarnating Spirits have, in the mirror image as stipulated by the law of Karma, “Like attracts Like in the Mirror Image either in support or opposition,” chosen Soul Structures that will allow close interaction for a common lesson. However, this lesson may vary in perspective.
The Soul Structure is a composite of Archetype, Goal, Modes, Attitudes, Centers, and Chief Feature. The Archetype is set from the Spirit’s creation and is often called the Role Essence. The Archetype merely defines the way in which the Soul Structure is expressed. These Archetypes are Sage, Artisan, Priest, Slave, King, Warrior and Scholar. Further insight into these can be obtained from my book “The Way To Oneness.”
I would just remind you, that the female form is equal to the male form, even though it is often believed on Earth that the female form is more ascended. This is a false belief. Both are filled with unconditional love that feels soft and tender to the aspiring scholar.
Certain Goals, Modes, Attitudes and Centers are chosen to work with, which help form the physical character of the incarnating individual. A person’s character evolves with the influence of peers and elders on Earth, while being inspired by Spirit Guides to evolve through countless experiences.
The Goal, selected by a Spirit, will manifest into form according to the different stimuli that entice him/her to develop their beliefs and actions that develop a way of life. A Goal may vary in form as the years pass by, however, it never changes. The basic Goals are Acceptance, Rejection, Growth, Retardation, Dominance, Submission, and Stagnation. These Goals provide negative and positive traits for learning. Your Goal is faced throughout your daily trials which results in you making up your own mind about what you believe and how you subsequently respond to earthly stimuli.
The Modes - provide a way of achieving mastery of your Goals. The Modes are: Power, Caution, Passion, Repression, Aggression, Perseverance and Observation. Several Modes are selected by everyone to work with throughout a life. Of those Modes selected, some may be expressed more dominantly than others. Through daily experiences, you will develop your beliefs and deeply impress your emotional responses into your subconscious mind. It is most likely, that many of those emotions will be false, and are probably creating fear and imbalance that destroy your true perception.
The Attitudes provide a way for spontaneity to develop an individual’s enquiring mine, which results from physical interactions as life unfolds. Attitudes reflect logical expression into emotional responses for the incarnated individual, providing learning and growth. The Attitudes are chosen from Idealist, Skeptic, Spiritualist, Stoic, Realist, Cynic and Pragmatic. Usually, no more than three Attitudes are chosen and worked with in one life. However, the older the Spirit and its soul vibration, the more capable it is of working with all seven Attitudes. As a person’s life unfolds, these Attitudes will deepen their character and help form strong personality traits that eventually, hopefully, will guide them to make wise choices. You may clearly see your Attitudes when something disruptive happens.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Preemptive Peace A Living "Prayer" for Mutually Assured Survival ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ by Steve Bhaerman .....It was at a time when Bill Clinton was in the midst of his impeachment crisis. With his back up against the wall, there was only one thing he could do -- order air strikes against Iraq. I was at a conference in Florida, and one of the speakers was Gregg Braden, a scientist by training who has done a lot of research on meditation and prayer. Long before there was any news of air strikes being launched, Gregg and a number of other presenters had planned a worldwide meditation for peace with this particular conference as the focalizing event. He instructed the group in a kind of prayer he called The Lost Mode of Prayer that involved using the “juice” of emotion to feel and see the prayer already answered. As I closed my eyes, I imagined a true “arms pact” between opposing sides. I saw a stage, and a line of individuals coming from either side to meet in the middle. I imagined they were Israelis and Palestinians, but they could have been Irish Catholics and Irish Protestants, Serbs and Croats, Greeks and Turks, or even Democrats and Republicans. In military fashion they strode to the middle, and when members of “opposing” groups met, there was the cry of “Present arms!”
At which point, both individuals would open their arms -- and hug. And thus, I watched this procession continue until the end of the meditation. Later in the day, we heard the news that for some inexplicable reason, the planes turned around. Did our prayer have anything to do with it? And, can our intentions actually impact outcomes continents away? Says Gregg Brad, "The authors of the Dead Sea Scrolls -- the ancient Essenes -- were very clear that the world around us mirrors the feelings, emotions, and perceptions we hold inside our bodies. Emotion is the power source, but it is scattered until thought gives it direction. Feeling is the power of emotion merged with the guidance of human thought. It is this language of feeling that Creation responds to. In this feeling state we have the ability to touch Creation and the world around us through prayer. As it says in the Essene manuscripts, ‘when these three become one then you say to the mountain, move, and the mountain moves." Did the shared intention cause the mountain to move, or are we simply making a mountain out of a mole hill? And if the mountain did move, then why did the bombing get relaunched on another day? Says Gregg, “What happened was that the people stopped their prayers. Most people view prayer as something we ‘do’ on occasion when we think we need God's help. We set a moment aside, sit down and say a prayer asking for circumstances or events to change. Then we stop our prayer, get up, and go about our business. In The Lost Mode of Prayer, the prayer -- our heart's desire -- becomes a consciousness embodied, rather than just an action performed on occasion. The author Neville terms it ‘living in the wish fulfilled.’ We hold the feeling of our heart's desire day in and day out, rather than simply praying for a moment when we'd like to see a change and then leaving the state of prayer to go on with our daily lives. As we are surrounded and enveloped by the feeling of our wish fulfilled, we are actually living in a state of compassion, gratitude, and appreciation.” In other words, when we focus a strong positive feeling with the laser of intention -- and when we embody this feeling over time -- we may actually be able to impact the field of possibilities. The science of how this is being done can be found in books such as The Field by Lynn McTaggart, Entangled Minds by Dean Radin, and Gregg Braden’s latest book, The Divine Matrix. For now, let’s consider how as many of us as possible can hold the field for “mutually assured survival” in the Middle East, and how we can reinforce an ongoing field of peaceful dreams to supersede the field of nightmares we seem to have going now. There have been news reports indicating possible air strikes on Iran beginning on Good Friday. Again, is this true? Not true? We don’t know. In any case, if we want to broadcast our intention that Good Friday not become Bad Friday, that leaves us with Holy Thursday ... tomorrow, April 5th. We are asking you and anyone else you forward this to to make tomorrow the day we begin to hold our intention of preemptive peace and mutually assured survival. So ... in keeping with Gregg’s notion of prayer, what is your vivid and joyous vision of peace? What does it look like? Sound like? Feel like? Does it have to do with opposing sides hugging? Planting olive trees together instead of land mines? Celebrating that a ruling majority in each land has adopted the “we’re all in it together” world view? Whatever this scenario is, feel it. Hold it for the entire day, whenever you think about it. Enroll others in doing the same. As Swami is fond of saying, “An enrolling stone gathers no remorse.” Another thing Swami has said is, “Life is like photography. We use the negative to develop.” Out of the apparent negativity of the stories circulating that a bombing attack in Iran was imminent, a great “positive” opportunity has emerged. Thanks to a dedicated webmaster in New York, BriAnna Olson and an associate in Northern California, Suzanne Keehn, we are creating a website to help hold this ongoing field of peace. We call it preemptivepeace.org and it will up and running shortly. We will keep you apprised. We're in the process of growing, so when you go to our website, please add your name/email to keep in touch. So, as one might ask during Passover week, “Why is this site different from all other sites?” Seriously, there are lots of peace organizations and peace sites, so how and why is this one different? For one thing, we are creating a context that relates what we call “peace” to all of the factors that prevent peace or make it possible -- spiritual, emotional, political, spiritual, environmental. We face directly the powerful and persistent beliefs that make us secretly fear that peace isn’t possible, we affirm practicing the “operating system” offered to us by all religions via the Golden Rule and we offer a portal to the projects and practices that are most likely to bring peace. We are excited about being an ongoing “supportal” to all things that affirm our world view of “we’re all in this together,” and give us tools to, as Swami says, “Regrow the Garden from the grassroots up, and have a heaven of a time doing it.” As Gregg Braden would remind us, prayer isn’t something we “do” but something that we “be.” Let the being of preemptive peace begin.
 10 Keys to Improve Productivity
By Patricia Keating (c) 2006 Patti Keating 1. Prioritize your efforts - Steven Covey makes a distinction between things that are urgent and things that are important. Focus your efforts on the important items first. 2. Simplify your environment - Clutter creates stress. You feel like you have more work to do when you are in a cluttered environment. 3. Follow up within 24 hours - Return all business emails and phone calls within 24 hours, lingering communication creates a feeling of clutter. 4. Listen intently to others - When you allow thoughts to interrupt your listening, you create anxiety for yourself because you cannot respond to your thoughts nor can you completely take in what the other person is telling you. 5. Decide what you are willing to give up in order to get what you want - Whether it is time, money, or sleep. You make choices about what want, and what the cost will be. Recognize the need to give something up in order to receive something new. 6. Spend time in reflection daily - When you create a space for inner stillness your mind will release the background noise of the world and become clearer and stronger when you return. 7. Simplify your tasks - Where do you spend excess time? Create simple systems to handle everyday tasks. 8. Create a strong personal foundation - When your boundaries are strong and your standards are high, problems disappear. 9. Simplify your life - A complicated life seeks problems. 10. Eliminate tolerations - Identify those things you are tolerating and get rid of them. ABOUT THE AUTHOR
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Greg Percifield, Owner of Music Forte  How to fill a matrix
Isn't that the Million Dollar question? Well in the case of Music Forte it's about the $4,500/per month question. One of the problems that many of us likely face is letting old habits die. In particular, I think about phrases that I've heard over and over again, "Residual income" and "Passive income". Yuck! There is nothing passive about it really, and it's not leftover food on my dinner plate, so I wouldn't consider it any form of residual either. Yet every time we hear that phrase, we're ingraining the negative context into our minds that our efforts at network marketing might not ever be more than just a "side-job". And so, with that sub-conscious signal, we put in our "passive effort", or a "residual effort" if there even is such a thing! Passive effort would indicate that we're not trying very hard, and residual effort might reflect the last bit of energy we have to spend after using it all up on our regular nine-to-fives. So on to the question, "How do you fill a matrix"? The answer is really quite simple. You need to believe that THIS can be your job. You can do away with the 9-to-5 office hours. You CAN make a full time-employment from your OWN home! But only if you are ready to. To be ready, you need to be committed. You have to put away the fear that you might not make enough, because you most definitely will. You are working with an Incorporated business that has nearly four years of success and continues to build in a positive direction. It's time to do away with the words "passive" and "residual". If you have ever been self-employed or worked as a contractor, you might understand the risk factor. You get paid for your work, and if you don't work you don't get paid. It's a simple enough concept. Many people prefer not to explore possibilities of freedom, because they fear that risk. Security is a great thing. But it should not hinder our ability to succeed. Making good money from your own home is exciting and invigorating. When you accomplish the task, you will want everyone to know you did it! There is no shame in telling them. In fact, it will help you to accomplish your goals. Your excitement is your most valuable sales tool. And if you face skeptics, you can wave and smile to them on your way to the bank. Don't be passive, be assertive. Don't settle for residuals, make a career out of your opportunity. These are things that you need to do to fill your matrix. And for those of you who are not interested in filling the matrix, that is also ok. You can earn a few hundred a month, and still enjoy the benefits and the great community that surrounds you. Music Forte is about the music, and the Platinum Plan is a success regardless of how far you want to take it. Enjoy the music, or share it with your family and friends. Take advantage of the new features such as our contact manager, and I'm sure you'll see the value that far exceeds a $15 monthly fee. You WILL succeed with whatever you put your heart and mind to. I know many members are already on a solid path to completing their matrix. In that process, they are helping out other members in the community. Use that show of accomplishment as a positive reinforcement to let you know that YOU can do the same!
The Power of Forgiveness"
 The other day, I was talking with a girlfriend who is in a process of getting divorced from her husband after 30 years of marriage. After listening to her complaints for 30 minutes, she declared, "I will never forgive him" for this, "I will never forgive him" for that. Now, I can totally understand her frustration.
However, what I do not understand is: What is she trying to accomplish, by declaring, "I will never forgive him." Is she trying to punish him by holding grudges forever? If she wants to hold grudges and not forgive him, whom is she hurting? She is definitely not hurting him because he does not know anything about it. So, who is really getting hurt if she does not forgive him? Yes, you are right. She is hurting herself and only herself. Many people think that to forgive someone is to say, "What you did to me is OK." When we choose to forgive, we are simply letting go of our end of the chain that keeps us enslaved to the past and bound to that person and whatever happened. By forgiving,we are taking our focus off a crippling vision of what we do not want more of and replacing it with what we desire to create. By choosing to forgive and respond with love rather than fear--we free ourselves. We sweep away the years of built-up sludge that jam up the channels through which abundance of every kind flows, and we move more firmly into our power to manifest that peaceful, prosperous world we want to live in. Forgiving is something that a person does for himself and not for somebody else. Some years ago, I had a serious upset with one of my family members. The disagreement was so painful that my mind and body went into a state of shock. I just could not get over it. A couple of weeks later, I noticed that I was losing my hair. I would find hair just about everywhere: in the shower, in my bed, on the kitchen floor. Slowly, slowly I noticed that my hair started thinning at the front of my scalp. I knew that the reason I was losing my hair was the upset I experienced with my family member. However, I did not know what to do about it and was not ready to go bald, at least not yet! I started panicking. I went to see a dermatologist who prescribed Rogaine. Rogaine is some kind of liquid that you put on the affected area and hope it will stop the thinning of the hair. I used it couple of times, but I did not like the side effects. My hair became coarse and turned to a grayish color. The last time I used it, I got dizzy and almost passed out. That was the end of Rogaine for me. I went to see another doctor who told me she did not have any solution for my problem and advised me to "just get used to it and accept it. She meant that I should accept the fact that I was getting bald. Now, you know how important hair is for women. I was not ready to live with a "bad hair day" "every day" for the remainder of my life. At this point, I knew the problem was an emotional one that manifested in the physical form. I had a moment of total clarity and realized that I was concentrating on the fruits, which are the results, instead of focusing on the roots that created the results. I realized that I had to handle the situation on an emotional level instead of on a physical level. My spiritual adviser lived in Santa Barbara, so I drove up one day and discussed my situation with her. She suggested doing this simple exercise--one of forgiving. It is called the "Compassion Exercise. Let me explain how it is done. I closed my eyes, put my attention on the person I needed to forgive, and repeated to myself: Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in their life. Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness, and despair. Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in their life. Just like me, this person is learning about life. While doing the exercise, I put myself in their shoes and felt how they felt. Slowly I released the negative energy that was affecting my mind and my body, and let it drain out of me to the universe. By doing this exercise, I forgave the person and as a result, my hair loss stopped. What do you think happened here? It had to do with forgiveness. It had to do with giving up the negative energy. If I kept holding grudges and had not forgiven this person, I would be very bald by now. If I insisted on saying, "I will never forgive this person, who do you think would still be suffering--the other person or me? Here is a short exercise to do. Ask yourself the following questions: 1. Against whom am I holding a grudge right now, today, this moment? List as many as necessary!
2. In what way does holding these grudges enhance my life and bring me peace?
3. In what way may holding these grudges be restricting me? (Joy and happiness, relationships, career, finances, self-esteem, stress, etc.)
4. Am I going to continue paying these prices and placing my attention on what I do NOT want more of in my life?
Alternatively, do I choose to MAKE PEACE? While you are asking yourself these questions, feel free to use the tools from the above "Compassion Exercise". Learn to forgive yourself and other people who were involved in your situation. Make a note to yourself. How did you feel after you released the negative energy and forgave yourself and others. About The Author: Lea Yekutiel turned her life around 180 degrees just by changing her belief system and her attitude towards life. It took her twenty years of intensive study of metaphysics, and spiritual growth to learn what she now practices and teaches.
After overcoming Cancer Healing herself, she now helps cancer survivors on their journey of recovery, peace and happiness. She relates many wonderful experiences in her soon to be published book, "Making the Breast of It, Overcoming Fear of Intimacy after Mastectomy" which can enlighten the reader in a unique and healing way. To buy a copy of Lea's book go to http://www.ilovemybreastcancer.com
Lea is looking for anyone who had difficulty coping with mastectomy or experienced rejection from the significant other regarding having intimate relationship for her next book. It could be with a positive or negative outcome.
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The Four Agreements
Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth."
"In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible."
This powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over five years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles.
The Four AgreementsTM offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
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You Are Free 
God said: Is it really so important that everyone agree with you about anything or everything? Even when you are absolutely right, how much does it matter? What is your vested interest that you must have agreement. Give everyone their free-wheeling space, and have yours. When you complain to someone, you are waiting for their agreement. Is their agreement really such a weighty thing that you would wait for it? What is it that you need confirmed? And why do you need it anyway? Serve others, and don't ask for much. Opinions are opinions, and that's all they are. Here today and gone tomorrow. You may not even agree with yourself tomorrow! That is a good thing that you can change your mind. Change it often. Reach new levels. Not everyone agrees with Me. You may not. This is your freedom of will. I gave it to you. Now it is for you to give freedom to everyone. In theory, you love freedom for all. In actuality, you are not so sure. Not that you would infringe on anyone. Oh, no, you only want to be agreed with. You only want to enlighten others, bring them to their senses and your way of thinking. This is a losing battle, beloveds. It is not winnable. Even if you win, you have won nothing. A nod of the head, a word. This is what winning an argument is made of. Don't argue, and you will not win nor lose the nothing at all that is at stake. Get on with your life. In life, it is like you are taking a walk. If someone wants to walk with you, you are glad. If they want to take a different walk, that's okay too. You may meet at a certain corner down the road anyway. Or you may not. When you no longer require someone's compliance or agreement, that will be a wonderful thing. As you release others, you release yourself. No one has to conform to another's thoughts. Thoughts are up for grabs. Even if you are an employer, maybe you are the one who has to change his mind. But for that you have to listen first. And if you are an employee, you will have to listen and oblige, even when it makes no sense to you. It is not compromise I speak of. It's just that everything may not be the way you want, or even the way it should be. And your lack of agreement doesn't have to be a stumbling block. You don't have to make a fuss about it. You don't have to get in a huff. Of course, there is a certain line beyond which you will not step, and that is up to you. That is your freedom of choice. You always have a choice, beloveds. It's that you don't always know what you are choosing. It's that sometimes you choose ego over everything. You are free to be hasty, and you are free to take your time. You are free to disagree, and you are free to drop it. You are free to be anything at all. You are free to cry, and you are free to laugh. You are free to create tension, and you are free to create peace. You are free to give all you are worth, and you are free to give nothing at all. Your choices will come according to the step you stand on. Climb higher, and you will see farther, and, when all is said, you will make choices good for all on all levels. HeavenlettersT Copyright1999-2007 -- Helping Human Beings Come Closer to God and Their Own Hearts * In these times when the whole world needs nourishing, Heavenletters is already proven to stir the hearts and souls of people of all ages all around the world and from all walks of life. *Gloria Wendroff, GodwriterT, Teacher, Speaker * The GodwritingT International Society of Heaven Ministries * 703 E. Burlington Avenue, Fairfield, IA 52556 * www.heavenletters.org * www.heavenletters.org/upcomingbooks.html * Amazon http://tinyurl.com/4yffm * | |
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